Dr Nicolya Williams

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Take Control of Your Life

  sunglasses-635269_1920Are you sick and tired of feeling sick and tired? Everyone wants a better life, but few are willing to take charge and make it happen. It’s the accumulation of fears and a lack of responsibility that are to blame. You can take charge of your life and transform it into something exciting and fulfilling. It’s never too late. Take control of your life and put yourself in the driver’s seat: 

  1. Take responsibility. The easiest way to deal with life is to accept full responsibility. That doesn’t mean that everything is your fault, but it is your responsibility to deal with your life. Even if your parents abused you, it’s your responsibility to deal with it and move on. Who else is going to do it?

 

  • Taking responsibility is powerful because you then have the power to change. If it’s someone else’s responsibility, all you can do is wait for someone else to fix it.
  1. Raise your standards. If you’re content with making $50,000 per year, you’ll never have a million-dollar salary. If you’re content with your love handles, you’ll never see your abs. People only improve until they’re content, and then they relax.

 

  • The willingness to accept your current circumstances is a decision to maintain your current life. Set your standards accordingly.
  1. Avoid being afraid of failure. This is the primary obstacle for most people. They’re afraid of failing. You fail all the time and don’t think anything of it. You’re five minutes late for work. You cook the chicken parmesan five minutes too long. You spill your coffee or misspell a word. For some reason, you don’t take these failures personally.

 

  • But the prospect of having a script rejected or losing a competition is too much to handle.

 

  • The more you fail, the more successful you will be, as long as you learn from your failures and try again. If you only do the things you know you can do, you’ll be stuck.
  1. Stop caring what others think. This is the other major obstacle. It seems silly to worry about the opinion of someone you barely know, but it happens all the time. No matter what you do, you’re being judged by others. So let go of it. Half of the world thinks you’re wonderful. The other half doesn’t.
  2. Embrace discomfort. Changing anything in your life feels at least a little uncomfortable. The anxiety you feel is nothing more than a feeling in your body, like a sunburn. You don’t have to allow it to stop you.

 

  • If you’re uncomfortable, be excited. It means you’re doing something that can make a difference in your life.

 Are finally ready to take charge of your life? Are you tired of pretending that you’re a victim? You can choose the direction of your life. Take responsibility and work through your fears. A little discomfort is a small price to pay for a life that you enjoy.