Are you a people-pleaser aka Butt kisser....LOL?Answer these questions to find out....Do you try to help everyone at the expense of your own needs?Do you try to make others happy as a means of avoiding confrontation?Do you feel guilt when you put yourself first?If so, you're a people pleaser. I spent my entire life people pleasing. I only made decisions based on what I believed people wanted me to do and that paralyzed me. I lost myself and I felt like it was impossible to do anything outside of the box. I am so grateful that I have been released from people bondage. In this article I want to share how to overcome this common temptation to try to make everyone happy.Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority that is when it is time to pause and reflect.Trying to make others happy at your own expense is a poor way to spend your time and energy.People-pleasers feel a need to make others happy, but the motive isn't entirely altruistic. People-pleasers are attempting to avoid confrontation. They are also feel important by helping others. When they do something nice for another person, they feel good about themselves. Meanwhile, their own lives are unravelling.They also lose the respect of others. When you don't respect your time or your needs, no one else will either. You're training people to treat you badly.Here are ways to avoid people pleasing: 1. Realize that's it's not important that everyone like you. It's not even possible. There are people that you'll never like. Everyone has their own set of preferences. Understand that some people won't like you no matter what you do. It just doesn't matter. * Understanding this simple fact can be incredibly liberating.2. Get your validation from yourself. Those that try to please everyone are receiving their validation externally. You don't need others to make you feel good. Build up what makes you feel good. Put your attention on pleasing yourself.3. All you must do is say "no." With practice, it becomes easier to say no to others and yourself. Practice Makes Perfect! When you're asked to do something that you don't have time to do, say "no." When you put pressure on yourself to make others happy, say "no" to yourself. It can be that simple. * When you say "no," you're saying "yes" to something else.4. Be prepared to lose a few people. There are a few people that may have been pretending to be your friend. Once you stop being so accommodating, they'll move on. You're better off without them. * People will begin to have a new level of respect for you, and you'll attract a new group of friends that bring more to your life. 5. My favorite is.... Drop the apologies. You don't have to apologize because your priorities don't match up with someone else's. You have the right to prioritize your time as you see fit. Avoid apologizing if you don't have anything to apologize for.When you try to do too much and be too much, you're going to be stressed. The gains from attempting to please everyone will never outweigh the costs. Learn to get validation from yourself. You don't have to please others to feel good about yourself. Give your own needs your attention. You deserve as much happiness as anyone else.