Dr Nicolya Williams

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Create Joy

Joy defined as a feeling of great pleasure and happiness.Who in the world would NOT want to experience Joy?Joy doesn’t have to be hard to manifest in your life. You can create it by making a conscious effort to have more happiness.Joy is an important mindset. It’s not just about what happens to you. Your reactions to events, circumstances, people, and situations are part of it. Joy may feel impermanent. With this article I am going to share how you can attract it and make it more stable.Create more joy in your life:

  1. Make a change. Whether you’ve always wanted to learn how to knit or take a professional cooking class, you can make changes in your life that lead to joy.

The quickest way to make the change is:

  • Avoid allowing fear to stop you from making changes. Joy tends to be on the other side of fear. Can you imagine how you’ll feel when you finally take the class you’ve always wanted? Or how you will feel will you finally make it to the Country you always wanted to visit?
  • The change doesn’t have to be huge. You can take small steps toward your dreams. You can start implementing small steps each day.
  • Realize that your happiness depends on YOU only. You can’t expect your life to get better by doing nothing every day. So make a change to take you in the direction you wish to go.

 

  1. Learn gratitude. It’s easy to focus on the day-to-day stress and lose sight of the simple things that you’re thankful for. When you reframe your thinking to the more positive you will find it more frequently.
  • Make a list or keep a journal of all the good things in your life. Review it each day. This will help you find peace and joy on a daily basis. You’ll see that your life isn’t made up of just negative moments.
  • Your gratitude list can include ordinary things such as having a home, a bed, or a breakfast every morning. The key is to focus on the areas of your life that make you feel happy. One way I do this is by asking myself...what if I wake up tomorrow with ONLY the things I thanked God for yesterday. It really makes me more appreciative of EVERYTHING.
  1. Make a happy board. Similar to a vision board, a happy board is filled with things that make you happy – right now – rather than goals that you’re working toward. This is something I look at weekly and more frequently if I am starting to lost my joy.
  • You can make it on paper or design it online.
  • The key is to use the space to add things that bring joy to your life.

 

  1. Stop the flaw focus. One of the things that hurts your ability to have more joy is a focus on your flaws. We all have them, but we are often hardest on ourselves.

 

  •  If your friends focus on your flaws find new friends. Likewise, if you’re paying too much attention to your own flaws, then it’s time to change your mindset.
  • Practice love and acceptance each day. Use affirmations to encourage yourself each day.

 

  1. Forgive yourself. You can’t experience happiness if you’re constantly blaming yourself and making yourself feel awful. It’s important to learn how to forgive yourself to have joy.
  • Learn to let go of the guilt and shame that has built up in your life. Negative situations come up for everyone. Consciously avoid dwelling on them.
  • Practice forgiveness and stifle your inner critic for good. View forgiveness as a way to use self-care on a daily basis.

 Joy doesn’t have to be a fleeting moment you feel on occasion. Let joy be a bigger part of your daily existence. Use these strategies and enjoy your life.