When going through a breakup or divorce many people wonder how long the healing process will take and how they can get over their ex. The truth is the process is really hard. Today I will share three strategies to help you stop loving your ex.

1. Don't - understand that love is not a bad emotion. It shows you have a heart and that you're human. Honor yourself for being brave enough to love someone. That is a feeling that some never experience. Understand though that just because you love someone does not mean you have to be with them. A lot of people try to compare themselves to their ex and because their ex doesn't love them or moved on they feel like they should too. We all have our own timelines and we should not compare this to anyone else. Love is a complex emotion that I am truly not sure ever fully goes away it just changes. 

2. Help yourself come to acceptance- this happens when you surrender to what you cannot change. While you may have wanted things to be different the truth is we can't change the past. If we spend all of our time focused on trying to change it we can miss our present.

3. Take care of yourself. A lot of times in relationships we lose ourselves. We lose what matters to us, our values, our desires, our hopes, and our dreams. When the relationship is over it's tough to know who we are. The best thing that you can do for yourself when ending the relationship is to love yourself enough to take care of yourself. This happens when you are able to go into the new independence state and find yourself again. This also happens when you are sure to heal yourself so that you're able to love yourself.

So know that your energy should not be spent on trying to stop loving your ex. Shift your focus. Instead chose to focus on loving and reinventing yourself.  Remember there is a famous quote that goes like this "Things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out.”-John Wooden

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