Dr Nicolya Williams

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Breaking Free from People-Pleasing and Staying True to Your Goals

Today we will dive into the captivating topic of avoiding people-pleasing tendencies and focusing on your goals. It's time to break free from the urge to constantly seek approval and find the strength to stay committed to your own aspirations.

Let's explore some strategies to help you reclaim your power and pursue the path that truly resonates with you.


  1. Self-Reflection and Goal Clarity:
    To successfully avoid people-pleasing, start by reflecting on your own values, passions, and aspirations. Clarify your goals and understand why they are important to you. When you have a clear vision, it becomes easier to prioritize your objectives over other people's expectations. If you're wanting to create a goal unlike any others with true actionable steps that move the needle sign up for the breakthrough goal setting session here!

2. Set Boundaries and Learn to Say "No":
Establishing healthy boundaries is crucial in avoiding people-pleasing behaviors. Practice saying "no" to requests or tasks that do not align with your goals or values. Remember, it is not selfish to prioritize your own journey. By setting boundaries, you create the necessary space and time to focus on your own growth and development. Check out a YouTube video I did on learning to say "no".

3. Surround Yourself with Supportive Individuals:
Surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals who support and uplift your goals can have a significant impact on your journey. Seek out a supportive network of friends, mentors, or coaches who believe in your capabilities and encourage you to stay true to your aspirations. This is what makes the ELEVATE Method so different. We are a community of likeminded people who push each other toward our goals.

4. Embrace Self-Confidence and Self-Worth:
Building self-confidence and recognizing your own self-worth are vital in avoiding the need for constant validation from others. Celebrate your achievements, acknowledge your strengths, and remind yourself that your goals matter. Embrace your unique journey and trust in your abilities to overcome obstacles. Here is a fun tapping video to strengthen your confidence. 

5. Practice Assertiveness and Effective Communication:
Developing assertiveness and mastering effective communication techniques can help you navigate situations where people-pleasing tendencies may arise. Express your needs, opinions, and boundaries clearly, while also being respectful and empathetic toward others. Effective communication promotes healthy interactions and helps you stay focused on your goals.

6. Embrace Feedback, but Stay True to Yourself:
While feedback can be valuable for growth, it is essential to filter it through the lens of your own goals and values. Be selective about whose opinions you genuinely value and consider feedback that aligns with your vision. Remember, you are the author of your own journey, and staying true to yourself is key.

7. Cultivate Self-Care and Mindfulness:
Prioritize self-care and mindfulness to stay connected with your own needs and desires. Engage in activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul. Practice mindfulness to stay present and focused on your goals rather than getting caught up in seeking external validation. Here is a super dope visualization practice I incorporate to remind me that success is available to me always and gives me the courage to move forward consistently.


Breaking free from the cycle of people-pleasing and staying committed to your goals requires inner strength, self-reflection, and the courage to put yourself first. Embrace your uniqueness, set healthy boundaries, and surround yourself with those who support and believe in you. Remember, your journey is yours to create, so let go of the need for approval and channel your energy towards achieving the aspirations that truly matter to you.

Stay inspired and keep forging ahead! You got this!