What are you feeding your mind?
When going through a divorce it can be easy and tempting to focus on the negative things.
After several months of struggling, I decided to make a non-negotiable decision to feed my mind thoughts that would encourage and strengthen my process.
Here are four things I wished I knew to feed my mind before going through my divorce
- Choose healing- it’s easy to want to move forward but also hold on to hope at the same time. This contradiction can cause a lot of confusion, overwhelm, and bitterness. I suggest that you chose to set your mind on healing. Take a moment to ask yourself what things do I need to think about and do to go in the direction of healing?
- Take care of you- Even if your situation doesn’t show this you do matter. Your feelings, your pain, your thoughts they all matter. Unfortunately during a divorce, it can be easy to put yourself on the back burner to focus on your kids, finances, former spouse, work, etc. I now know that my focus was in the wrong place. Without taking care of you - you will never be good to anyone else.
- Get help- I remember being so embarrassed about what was truly happening in my marriage and about the abrupt end that I shut people out. Looking back I wish that I reached out for love and support a lot sooner.
- It won’t last forever- The pain that I felt was unlike anything that I had ever experienced in my entire life and sadly I just knew that my pain would never go away. The hopelessness, the depression, the overwhelm everything felt unbearable. One weekend when I went to church my pastor preached a message titled “right foot left foot” and I knew that instead of trying to handle it all at that moment I would choose to take it one day at a time. It helped take some weight off my shoulder suggesting that I had to do and know it all then. I suggest the same for you.
At this moment when you’re facing such a large hurdle in front of you it can be impossible to see this. This is why I choose to share it because these are things that I wish that I knew then.
What are you feeding your mind now that it’s over?
